Here is your Find Your Perfect Life Partner tip number thirty eight.
People always told me I had to love myself to be really successful but I couldn't figure out....
Life Partner Tip 38. How to use Love to Dissolve Fear, Doubt and Self Loathing
So here's the deal. I have been counseling you to love yourself, so that you will be ready when a life partner comes along who is right for you right? Only one small problem... how exactly does one “love oneself” when we are constantly made to feel, guilty, inadequate, messed up and all sorts of other negative things by parents, peers and programming (advertising, TV, movies etc.)?
As I have struggled with self-abuse as much as anyone – my personal negative habit is to physically punish myself for being “stupid” i.e. forgetting things or being careless – but the lights really came on when I stumbled across this powerful easy technique the other day and I just had to share it with you.
Fact: The most stubborn, aggressive downright nasty habits will will “melt away” under the power of loving acceptance.
When you find a behavior or something else you want to change, do every thing you can to love and accept it just as it is. No skimping here! Really extend loving kindness to the habit or pattern. The same kind of feeling you would extend to a sick relative or pet.
The idea may seem weird at first but it works, and after years of personal struggle it is sometimes the only thing that works. When I'm really frustrated with myself, the only thing that dissolves my self loathing is remembering to love and accept it. In fact if I try and fight the frustration head on it only grows bigger but when I remember to love the feeling of frustration itself, it dissolves like a mist under the morning sun
Now consider yourself. What do you dislike? What do you wish you could change? What do you hate? Is it your looks? Your past actions? Is it your body? No matter what it is, understand this: love will always be stronger and through that loving strength it will dissolve it. So when any of these “gremlins” come out to nip at you, love yourself for being human and having a body, a set of looks or a past.
Then, love the negative feeling itself as much as you can at the time. Patience is helpful, too: everybody's capacity to love is different – but here's the good news.. it gets easier and easier with practice! After a while you will be good at this! You will see that negative feeling coming along a mile away and you will send out a beam of love that will zap it like a bug!
As the week unfolds be thankful for every opportunity to test your love muscles and as you turn love on to the “dark corners” of your mind feel your self confidence grow and your loving self develop. Soon you will be so relaxed in your body that you will be irresistible to your future life partner!
I guarantee it!
To your success!
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