Perfect Life Partner Tips

Tip 27 continued

This approach is actually quite effective. It's how we learn things. It's how we improve gradually and let go of our irrational fears until we are fully competent and confident.

However, being by nature an impatient person, I never felt that this approach was enough. Sure, many of my clients would take things step-by-step and ultimately get great results.

But many others would never get past first base. Their built-in fear of “making a fool of themselves” was stronger than their will to succeed.

This is where the power of belief comes in.

The first step is to recognize the limiting beliefs underlying some of the symptoms I listed earlier. Here are some typical ones I discovered:

  • A tendency to avoid picking up the phone
    (People don't want to be bothered. I'm a rude interruption.)
  • Staying away from places where you might meet a perspective partner
    (I'm just not a people person who is comfortable meeting strangers)
  • Putting off writing to that person who might be able to help you find “the one”
    (I'm not a good writer. And who would want to go out with me, anyway?)
  • Not asking for a second date if the first one went well
    (If they want another date, they'll let me know. I shouldn't be pushy.)
  • Avoiding going out with single friends to dances, parties etc.
    (I'd probably make a some dumb mistake and end up embarrassing myself. I am no good with crowds.)
  • Not to asking your friends and family to help you find your life partner
    (If they know I am looking they will tell me about people who they know who might be “looking”)

I'd be willing to bet you a dollar that you hold several of these (or similar) beliefs very dearly. And if you hold them strongly enough, you're not even going to take the small steps necessary to improve
in that area of marketing. You'll give up before you start.

So what works best? Taking the small steps or changing beliefs?

Both are equally important. If you don't have any big issues about meeting people, for instance, get started today, one step at a time to get out and meet new people. But if you're terrified of meeting new people you will need to work on beliefs first then taking some small steps will make the process a whole lot easier.

But no matter what your situation is, make a personal commitment to being a fearless, when you do; guess what? The universe will align with your new beliefs and you will find a way.

Fear of putting yourself out there and really “going for it” is a big issue for a many single people. The key is to recognize that fears are holding you back and then find the support you need to get past them.

To your success!


By: Sasha F.P. LeBaron
Sasha is the founder of an author and life coach. He lives on an island with his life partner Amy. When not helping people find their perfect life partner he enjoys going on dates, studying relationships and gardening.

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